044 | 🤦🏻♂️ Nobody Is Coming To Save You
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Here’s 3 things you need to know, 2 recommendations, and 1 quote. Enjoy and don’t forget to subscribe if you’re new!
💭 Three things you need to know:
🤦🏻♂️ Nobody is coming to save you
This is a realisation that I think I’ve only really come to terms in during the past year or so. It’s an incredibly freeing thought - your problems are your own. Nobody can fix them for you.
Changing our mindset from looking outwards (searching for what others can do for us), rather than inwards (what we can do for ourselves), is an important step in self-growth.
Unfortunately, nobody can force us to go to the gym, or out for a run while it is raining. No one will make us arrive on time to things when it’s easier to scroll through Instagram, rather than get ready to leave.
The phrase ‘Nobody is coming to save you’ can be harsh. But, it’s true. And it’s this truism that can give us some autonomy and self-reliance. If nobody is coming to save us, then it’s going to have to be ourselves, right?
🪣 Creating a ‘Fucket List’
From an excellent blog post I saw on Twitter by Jen Vermet.
It’s like a bucket list but better. One of my heroes, Jesse Itzler introduced me to this concept of a Fucket list in his course a couple of years ago. These are all things that you want to experience someday for no point other than that you are curious about them or think they’d bring joy to your life. For me, some of these things are: to live abroad for at least a year to be culturally immersed, to go skydiving, to teach creativity, to become PADI certified, to become fluent in a second language.
🙋🏻♂️ Aaaaaand Here’s Yet Another Reason to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
I thought this was an interesting and (personally) very helpful point of view on comparing oneself to others / being competitive about certain characteristics. It’s from The Courage to be Disliked.
You think of interpersonal relationships as competition; you perceive other people’s happiness as ‘my defeat’, and that is why you can’t celebrate it. However, once one is released from the schema of competition, the need to triumph over someone disappears. One is also released from the fear that says, Maybe I will lose. And one becomes able to celebrate other people’s happiness with all one’s heart. One may become able to contribute actively to other people’s happiness.
In going from comparing oneself - me vs them - to no longer doing so, you remove yourself from this imaginary competition. And in doing so, open yourself up to be pleased with the happiness of others.
✅ Two Recommendations:
📽 Never Too Small (YouTube microliving architecture series)
Never Too Small is an amazing channel that showcases tiny living spaces across the world. The spaces are as aesthetically pleasing as they are functional, which make sense given the creativity required to make the most of the space they are given. Each episode is usually less than 10 minutes long, and they are incredibly peaceful to watch.
⛷ Ski Holiday Packing List
Packing isn’t fun. Here’s a packing list from the interwebs that takes all the thinking away. Thank me later!
💬 And finally, one quote
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